Boring…

I’ve been busy lately. Work has been hectic. I’m active in my community. And I’ve been banging hookers. (Yeah, plural.)

The one thing I haven’t been doing much of is hanging out on the “hobbyist” message boards. And from the looks of things, no one else is either. The message boards are dying out.

It’s no secret, I guess, that I don’t particularly care for the self-styled “hobbyists”. You wanna fuck hookers? Go to it. You wanna turn it into a goddam hobby? Maybe you should re-think treating people like a hobby. But that’s just me. What I really dislike is the hour after hour, day after day, year after fucking year of the same self-aggrandizing, thinly veiled misogyny and pissing contests. Sometimes it seems like nothing ever changes on the boards. Over a year ago, I wrote a post about how the more things change, the more they stay the same. You can see the same topics being discussed over and over and over and over… you get the point. After a while though, it’s not just the same topics (trimmed or shaved?), the same discussions (what is GFE?) but worse, the same people. The same blowhards pontificating, shooting down n00bs, and generally being bloviating asshats who think they have all the answers when it comes to the proper way to fuck hookers. Of course, they themselves never actually fuck hookers, but they sure do know more about it than anyone else.

Truth of the matter is, the boards are becoming largely unnecessary. Once upon a time there was virtually no other way to find, research and contact escorts from the privacy of your mom’s basement home. Actually getting to chat –for free- online with real honest-to-gosh women who would willingly (for a fee) have actual non-cyber sex with you was a dream come true. That you could actually ‘earn’ some level of clout based on how many hookers you fucked (or how many guys were willing to backslap ya because of how many hookers you fucked) was the social vindication many of us never got in real life.

For a time, the escort message boards were the place to be. But it is not a sustainable model. Much like mainstream social networks like Friendster and MySpace have come and gone, I think the escort message board is seeing its better days in the rearview mirror. Escort advertising, networking and contact have moved into other arenas. Most escorts these days use a variety of social media to communicate with their client base. Whereas the mesage boards used to be the only way a potential client could interact with escorts, feel them out as it were, nowadays many escorts have their own blogs where they can craft their online personas and maintain control of their message without being at the mercy of some (often unscrupulous) board operator. They can impose their own rules of what they can say, what they can show and how they present themselves. There are multiple avenues available to escorts. Many are on Twitter. Most have their own websites where a potential client can find photos, rates and booking information.

For many “hobbyists” the lure of the message board was the easy availability of the escorts and the non-judgemental attitude of their fellow “hobbyists”. For escorts, it was like shooting fish in a barrel. But many of the guys started to like the validation they got from their fellow whoremongers. They became accustomed to being the big fish in a tiny, tiny Pond. Which led to an inflated sense of their position in the hooker/client dynamic.

When it comes to reviews, more and more escorts are eschewing the review process altogether. In an era of increased law enforcement scrutiny of hooker boards, it’s not always wise to have a written record of exactly which sex acts you’re willing to perform for money. A few “hobbyist” boards have tried to reinvent themselves (again) as ‘social networking’ sites and have moved their hooker reviews to ancillary sites. “Really, totally not us! That’s totally not our site that has the same name! We just have hooker ads, not reviews!” You’re not fooling anyone. Some sites have put their reviews behind a paywall. You can only access the reviews if youre willing to fork over $20 a month. Frankly, if you’re seeing so many different hookers every month that it’s cost effective to spend that much money reading reviews, maybe think about saving a few bucks for some salve for that dick chafing. And as I’ve said before, to a large extent reviews are less about the hooker than about giving the guys a forum to recount their sexual exploits to other guys who’ll believe them. Reviews are not the only way to determine if an escort is legitimate. They are often over-inflated, or just as often, under-rated. What one guy considers ‘the best blow job EVER’ may not be what works for your dick.

There’s a flip side to this also. It’s not only the same guys in the message boards day in, day out. I often see the same girls hour after hour, seemingly 24/7. If, whether hooker or “hobbyist”, you have time to be chatting online 24 hours a day, chances are you’re not out in the real world putting real dicks in real pussies.

In the past few months, I’ve been fortunate to have enough free time and spare cash (thanks Obama!) to have spent ‘quality time’ with several different escorts. One was a lady I’ve seen many, many times before. One was recommended by that lady. One was on an out of town business trip. The others were previously unknown to me. None of them were on escort message boards.

Time to evolve.

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Comments
  1. While I feel the same about the boards and I have less and less faith in the reviews, I do use them as a way to research new escorts.

    I am still in the process of connecting with the high priced escorts. They are not that easy to get a date with. So in the mid to upper price range where I am there are a lot of fakes and bait and switch operations going on.

    If a girl is 100% unreviewed, I worry, I want to know why. Most of the time I have found out there is a reason…they changed their name because they fucked over so many guys. They have an ugly face and droopy tits and someone actually said “ugly face droopy tits”.

    I agree that all of this could be handled if I moved to a higher quality, ie. has own website and pictures.

    You say, “Reviews are not the only way to determine if an escort is legitimate.” OK…then how? I REALLY want to know.

    As far as message boards I can take them or leave them. I usually only post to ask if anyone know anything about an unreviewed escort. I usually get the wonderful response, “It looks like it’s time for you to TOFTT.”

  2. R says:

    I’ve found that message boards simply don’t give me as much return for my time spent on them as paid ads do.
    I take a cavalier attitude towards reviews- there are some legit ones of me which never got posted, and a few fluffed up ones which did. So- whatever.
    I tested paid ads, message boards, twitter, my blog and my newsletter, late last year, in preparation for my Las Vegas tour/vacation. This was easy to test, partially because I created a separate landing page and it was for a discrete amount of time so could not be as cumulative as tracking my home base of St. Louis. What paid off were my twitter, newsletter, and paid ads. My video was noted as being quite persuasive too.
    Since I haven’t participated in message boards for almost two months, my website traffic has gone down, but my business has not. I’ve also decided that I was giving too much control away & possibly being indiscreet by blogging on my site (counter to an eccie discussion in the hdh forum I started), and so I permanently moved my blog to my VIP area (also for a few other reasons). Anyway, I feel more comfortable blogging to those I’ve already screened and/or met.
    Thinking about balancing discretion and perceived exclusivity with online marketing can one’s head explode! In this new and changing era of escorting, there is going to be alot more cross over between webgirls and companions. I predict that escorts will start to compete more directly with online camgirls, and that more escorts will have pay areas or paysites. It makes sense, and would be safer, to meet only those who have pre-paid some sort of nominal membership/vip/fan deposit or fee.
    On a personal note- hookeraddict is 100% correct on every point, especially in that: <blockquote cite="… nowadays many escorts have their own blogs where they can craft their online personas and maintain control of their message without being at the mercy of some (often unscrupulous) board operator. They can impose their own rules of what they can say, what they can show and how they present themselves…. "

  3. Rob says:

    re: Board to death

    You make some valid points. However, I disagree with the gist of your comments. So that you know where I’m coming from, I should mention that I am a relative noob myself. I do agree with some of the points you make:

    – You can see the same topics being discussed over and over
    – the same discussions (what is GFE?)
    – The same blowhards pontificating, shooting down n00bs

    I agree totally!

    However, this is where our agreement ends. Here are some of the points I disagree with:

    – treating people like a hobby

    My experience has been that the vast majority of the hobbyists on the boards that I am a member of, do respect SPs. I have also found that participating on reviews boards allows one to interact with SPs in a manner that would not be possible otherwise (Not all SPs have blogs, and I find chatting with SPs on a review board more personal than replying to an SP’s blog)

    – nowadays many escorts have their own blogs

    If you are a member of a board it is very easy to research who are the SPs who provide the best service. If you wanted to research SPs solely by checking out their blogs it would take you a very long time

    – When it comes to reviews, more and more escorts are eschewing the review process

    This may depend on what part of the world you are in a what boards you are a member of. Where I am, NRPs represent a very small percentage of the SPs being reviewed.

    – it’s not always wise to have a written record of exactly which sex acts you’re willing to perform for money

    I’m in Canada, so the laws are different here, but in cases where LE may be a concern, such as FS in MPs, most hobbyists know better that to talk about it in reviews – they use PMs instead. And, if they don’t the Mods usually step in.

    -to a large extent reviews are less about the hooker than about giving the guys a forum to recount their sexual exploits to other guys who’ll believe them

    So what if some guys need to show off. Again it may depend on what boards you are a member of, but in my experience the concern is usually that a review is a shill, and not that the hobbyist is just bragging. Usually if a hobbyist is not happy about the service he received from an SP he is not at all hesitant about letting other members know.

    I think that the bottom line is that review boards continue to be valuable, especially to noobs. For those hobbyists who already have a list of repeat SPs that they see regularly, review boards may be less necessary, but to noobs who are just starting out, they are invaluable.

    • Some Guy says:

      Well, this is, I suppose, the place where I tell you that you’re a n00b and you don’t know what you’re talking about — and you certainly don’t know nearly as much as I (the grizzled veteran).
      But, no.
      What I will say is that I’m glad your experiences in this milieu have been positive and pleasant. May they remain so.
      As for the concept of ‘treating people as a hobby’, I defer to what an escort whom I respect and have know for some time told me. That is, in effect, that while the guys see this as their “hobby” for the escorts it’s their real lives. They ain’t playin’ games. I think in many cases the initial allure of the boards for many ladies was the perception that this was a place where they could be treated as real people, not judged, not belittled for their chosen profession. And while that may continue to hold true for the boards you frequent in the Great White North, it unfortunately exists only as a long faded façade on many other boards.
      When it comes to reviews, again, I don’t know the specifics of the Canadian system or Canada-specific boards, in this part of the world there are boards where reviews are routinely rejected for not being graphic enough.
      I sincerely hope that if you continue to participate in the message board culture, you will continue to have positive experiences.